| One of the most common questions that I hear is | | | | lack of self-esteem and the following will help: |
| something along the lines of, "Is there a way / spell that | | | | You will need: |
| will make someone want to be with me / love me?" | | | | A bath |
| Well, the short answer is, "No - there is not." | | | | Lavender essential oil |
| One of the core precepts of the Wiccan faith is to | | | | Jasmine essential oil |
| harm no other. If you are weaving spells or intoning | | | | An essential oil burner |
| rituals which are meant to sway the minds of others, | | | | Seven green oak leaves (Basil can be used if oak is |
| then you are by definition harming them. | | | | out of season) |
| Free will is one of the most precious gifts we have | | | | One purple candle |
| been granted. Spells and rituals that are designed to | | | | One yellow candle |
| infringe upon that free will and force others to do | | | | Purple thread |
| things by your design, instead of in accord with their | | | | An envelope |
| own will, steals that most precious of gift from them. | | | | First, start a warm bath running and drizzle some of |
| In addition, whatever feelings or desires that they | | | | the lavender oil into the water. |
| manifested for you would never be real or honest, but | | | | Next light both candles and sit them near the bath. |
| would instead simply be the manifestation of the | | | | Float the leaves in the bath and climb in. |
| magics. Would you really want to be with someone | | | | Breathe in through your nose and hold it for a count of |
| under those circumstances? Never really knowing if | | | | seven. Breathe out through your mouth for a seven |
| their feelings for you were genuine - or simply the | | | | count. Repeat this process six more times. |
| product of magic? | | | | As you breathe in, visualize your lungs filling up with |
| So, in this particular case, my best advice to you is to | | | | warm, golden light. As you breathe out, see your |
| take the time and put in the effort to do things the old | | | | frustrations in your breath and watch your anger, pain, |
| fashioned way. After all, anything really worth doing is | | | | and all of the other barriers that stand in your way |
| certainly worth doing right. If it is meant to be, then | | | | float away with each exhalation. |
| there is no need to rush or hurry things - and you will | | | | Now, totally relaxed and at ease with yourself, |
| be much happier in the long term from having not done | | | | visualize a spot of golden light above you. Watch it get |
| something you would likely regret. | | | | bigger and bigger before it floats down and your body |
| However, all of that being said, there is no reason that | | | | is enveloped in its warm glow. |
| you cannot seek to improve certain things about | | | | At this point, repeat the following: |
| yourself in order to make you more attractive and | | | | "I have a contribution to make. |
| desirable to those around you. And well, without | | | | I have words to say. |
| question, one of the most desirable traits that a person | | | | Let others hear the words I speak. |
| can possess is a well deserved sense of | | | | And take self-doubt away. |
| self-confidence and self-esteem. | | | | And let it be done, that it harm no one." |
| To that end, here is a spell that I have found to be | | | | Repeat these words six more times before leaving |
| very helpful in bolstering both of those qualities.... | | | | the bath and snuffing the candles. |
| A Spell to Encourage Self Esteem | | | | Thread the oak leaves onto the string and then hold |
| Lacking that happy knack of making friends easily? If | | | | them up to the light and repeat the previous verse one |
| you are asked to a party, do you stand around like the | | | | last time. |
| proverbial wallflower while everyone else is engaged in | | | | Fold the leaves into the envelope and place the |
| happy conversations and the sound of everybody | | | | envelope into your handbag or wallet. |
| else's laughter fills the room? Or maybe your career is | | | | End the ritual by burning the jasmine oil in the burner |
| stuck in a rut and you see no way to make that break | | | | and letting the scent of it waft over you, removing any |
| for yourself to get ahead? If you think, "That's me!" | | | | last traces of self-doubt. |
| about any of these, then maybe the answer lies in a | | | | |