| A "puddle" is the ultimate re-framing of
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| | condition with few facts, so we move
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| a "bottomless pit" or a "dark hole" or an
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| | effortlessly from their succinct
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| "abyss" or an "unfathomable chasm" or
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| | storytelling to strategies for
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| "deep yogurt" or an "empty void" or "in
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| | empowerment. Envisioning clients moving
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| trouble" or -- well, you get the idea.
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| | through a puddle rather than colluding
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| "Moving through puddles" includes the
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| | with them to strengthen the abyss is a
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| concept of cycles, of life in constant
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| | gift I offer. My assisting them to see
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| change. We move through puddles more
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| | themselves moving through a puddle rather
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| easily when we understand that everything
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| | than an abyss is another benefit for
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| is constantly moving and changing,
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| | them. I witness their process,
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| including us! Feelings of joy when moving
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| | lovingly.The Puddle ScenarioSo here is
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| through puddles come with the realization
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| | the basic puddle scenario, a composite of
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| of the magnificence of living in an
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| | multiple clients and client sessions. I
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| ever-changing Universe.Bottomless Pit
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| | call the client "Jim," just so we have a
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| SyndromeFolks often telephone to tell me
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| | character.Jim feels feelings he has felt
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| they feel stuck or in a bottomless pit of
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| | many times before. Once again, he has
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| something or other. I accept their
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| | gotten himself into an untenable position
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| perceptions and accompanying feelings as
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| | with his boss. Last year, with his
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| honest representations. And, I know that
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| | previous boss, a similar situation
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| one of the reasons clients call me is so
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| | occurred. And, yes, he has experienced
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| that I can see what they do not readily
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| | somewhat similar dynamics with co-workers
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| see and, in turn, assure them that
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| | and family and friends.He is angry. He is
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| something more hopeful than hopelessness
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| | angry at himself and his boss. He sees
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| is really happening for them or is
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| | two ways to respond: (1) quit and feel
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| possible.So, as I hear their stories, I
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| | like a quitter or (2) stay and feel like
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| survey their energy field to see how
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| | a loser. To choose whether it feels
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| their perceptions are represented, catch
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| | better to be a loser than a quitter is
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| the vision of their true desires, and
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| | not very empowering. Of course, you and I
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| envision them as already empowered. I
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| | can see immediately, even with little
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| also suggest that they speak their story
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| | data, that Jim has many more options than
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| briefly because I want to help to move
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| | these two. However, Jim sees himself as a
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| them to where they want to be rather than
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| | victim of circumstances, even though he
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| keeping them in their current
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| | is not typically a victim. Jim sees
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| circumstances where they do not want to
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| | himself from inside a bottomless pit with
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| be. I honor their experiences without
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| | two options, not in a puddle with many
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| buying into their beliefs in
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| | options.When you understand the idea of
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| insufficiency. If I collude with them in
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| | puddles, you view life as a series of
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| their limiting beliefs, I do not serve
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| | experiences. Or a series of puddles. You
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| them. I am of no value to them if I join
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| | know that the puddle is simply one
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| them in their bottomless pit or dark
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| | experience that will be followed by
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| hole.Sometimes clients argue for their
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| | others. This does not necessarily mean
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| limitations -- trying to convince me how
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| | that you wait for the sun to evaporate
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| bad it is. My tolerance for interacting
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| | the puddle, but that is one option.
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| in such conversations is low. I listen
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| | Enjoying making mud pies is another.
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| deeply, compassionately, and quickly --
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| | Putting on your boots is another.
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| needing minimal details to be helpful --
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| | Splashing gleefully in the water is
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| then I suggest or facilitate empowering
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| | another. Dancing in the puddle to the
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| strategies. Sympathy is not one of my
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| | tune of "Singin' in the Rain" is still
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| skills; compassion is, however. I am
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| | another. And there are many more options.
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| patient, yet my gentle impatience is
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| | See, already this is more fun than
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| usually more often a gift to my
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| | weighing the pros and cons of being a
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| clients.Most of my regular clients know
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| | quitter or a loser.
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| that I hear and understand their
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